A woman I’ll call Pamela faced unwelcome challenges when her marriage ended. Where would she live? How could she afford to live alone? She had to rebuild her social life, practically from scratch.
Creating a social life was nearly effortless in her thirties but she had no idea how lonely and difficult it would be in her fifties. She found a studio apartment that was a private, cozy haven for healing her broken heart, but it was too private and as sociable as a motel. After several rebuffs, she withdrew into a shell.
She explored a number of options, including renting a spare bedroom from a senior person. But living with just one other person in a landlord/tenant hierarchy wasn’t appealing. Had there been more people and camaraderie, it might have been pleasant.
Eventually, she connected with community groups and made some good friends but she longed to share a home with people whose company she enjoyed.
Many people, like Pamela, are going through major changes in their lives. They are looking for genuine connections, not just a physical place to live. But that often proves very hard to find.
The predominant housing model – single family, single person households, nuclear family, or sharing an apartment for convenience rather than camaraderie – is a lot of work, costly, and not satisfying. Living solo, or in unfriendly environments, is isolating, debilitating, even bad for our health.